Preventing Lack of Self-Esteem

Have you ever wondered why some people commit suicide? What is the reason behind it? Why some people are anti-socials? Are they afraid of something? Why are they afraid to show their real self? Do they have bad experiences? It makes me wonder, why things like these occur in our world?

“Upon my journey as an observant. I’ve encountered a town, I can say that the town can be an eerie-type. I talked to one of the townspeople and ask his name, he insisted to call himself Pessimist.  He showed me around. He calls every person we meet “Pessimist”. I ask him, why does he call everyone, Pessimist. He said, “No one can save them”. That left me discombobulated. We continues to walk and meet everyone, I’m very confuse of their actions, one is crying in a corner, one is talking in an irritated way in front of a mirror, one is overworking and exhausting himself, one is pressuring herself, one is planting a withered flower, one is punching the wall. I didn’t bother to ask, but there’s one thing running in my mind that time. There’s no way out.”

Lack of self-esteem is being talked about. Many are facing lack of self-esteem. Base on my experience, it is a vortex where it is hard to escape. Where if you weren’t able learn, you’ll be eaten alive.

Being pressured, is one of the reason behind it. Students are buyers of it because of education and their family relatives. They’re being pressured by their family to strive harder. Where if you wouldn’t reach their expectations, they’ll get mad at you, they’ll even scold you. You’ll just wish to vanish like a bubble, and cry all night. Even though you know to yourself that you’ve given your best. Your best isn’t good enough for them. Not just to students but to those employers who also experience this. Just like the crying lady in the corner.

Feeling stress. Feeling stress in school or work for so many paperworks. The feels when, your teacher or boss made you do this, and when your other teacher or boss made you do this at the same time. The feels when you just want to cut your body into two. It’s very hard for us, because they’ll just say that you should’ve learned how to manage your time. Where our time is very full, where there’s nothing we can do because it’s a part of our job. Just like the worker who overworks himself.

Feeling depress. Feeling depress in everything. Depression copes everything around us. People, Places, and even Events. Depression in people we meet, those people whom we gave our trust but broke it. The people whom we needed the most but never came. Depression in places we go, in school because of bullying, because of those students and teachers who doesn’t like you. Depression in events that happens, like separation of parents, losing your job or can’t find one, or things you didn’t want to happen but it did. Depression comes in any way just to ruin your life. Just like the person who punches the wall.

Being pessimistic. Being pessimistic in every way,  lack of self-esteem makes you a negative-thinker. This includes, feeling hopeless in the things that you can do but chose not to do it. Feeling worthless or not good enough to everyone around you. And, speaking or showing negative things. Just like the boy planting a withered flower.

Other reasons are. Blaming yourself unfairly, hating yourself, unable to recognize your strengths because of your problems within, undeserving of happiness because you know to yourself that you don’t need it anymore, and low in confidence because you believe that you can’t do anything. Are also the reason why we’re facing that kind of problem. Just like the man who talks in an irritated way in front of a mirror.

These can affect your life and even destroy it. By preventing it you can live by the life you want.

Try to explain to your family relatives that awards aren’t the things we need in life, we just need to learn and  be a professional or a successful worker someday. That they need to set you free from any pressures, because it can affect you and your studies even worst. Try telling them that even though you fail now, you can strive harder to achieve something. Keep in mind that most of the professional persons these days, aren’t the smartest in their academics, but because of their hard work it paid off. And, learning from your mistakes can lead to success.

Don’t let anything especially stress comes to you. Even though you have many things to do, try to say to yourself that, you can do it. No performance task will ruin your life. Even though it is continuous, you can do it, it will pass you, like it never came.

If depression comes to you. It isn’t embarrassing to tell every bit of your problems to a teacher or a guidance counselor, because he/she can help you by giving you some advices. Or tell your problems to your best friend whom you trust the most, because I know that he/she just wants the best for you, who wouldn’t want his/her best friend to be happy? By telling all of your problems, it can soothe or ease the pain you’re feeling. If you have any problems, just share it to the person you gave your trust the most, for they can be your shoulder any time. Or if you have trust issues, try knowing who you are for sometimes the one who can help you is yourself.

Be an optimist anytime, anywhere, because it can boost your hopes. Avoid negative self-talk. Avoid thinking that you’re hopeless, because every one of us can do what we want to the best of our abilities. Also, don’t let anyone discourage you. For no one can command you but yourself. Also, avoid feeling worthless, because all of us are worthy to live our lives to the fullest. And besides, there are things you can do that only you can do it. By knowing who you are you’ll learn to accept anything.

Also, think about what is affecting your self-esteem and try to reciprocate it, connect with people who love you because they can show how worthy you are, learn to be assertive so that you can show them that you are confident in any way, set yourself a challenge so that you’ll face yourself with a goal in mind and heart, focus on your positives and never look on the negatives, take care of yourself, and get support if things get too much. Every bit of second counts, so learn to communicate with other people and become an instrument to those who are weighed down that they can still change there lives and escape from the dark vortex of Lack of Self-Esteem.